85%....

Sometimes I think a lot.

Ok all the time I think a lot.

Let me slide this to you real quick.

The math teacher right?

She told me a few weeks ago that she did two things: she prayed about who to be with and she made a pros and cons list.

I have two thoughts about that. 

1. You're telling me this and also telling me you haven't talked to anyone else about it. But you're talking to me about it. If you haven't talked to the girl you're with about it, then I have to ask you why you're more comfortable talking to me about your inner most thoughts and prayers than the person you're with? I'm just saying I want to be able to talk to my wife about everything and if I'm experiencing that kind of freedom somewhere else....I'd think about what that really means. 

2. You've been dating this girl for a while. 

Longer than you dated me. 

You talk to her more than you talk to me. 

You spend more time with her than you spend with me. 

If after all the time you've spent with her, she's indistinguishable from me then she's not making a solid enough impression. 

I would assume that with that much time together, she'd easily come out on top of a pros and cons list. 

Now I know I'm different.

I won't even call you my girlfriend without knowing that there's a 85% chance I'll ask you to marry me. Me wanting you to eventually be my wife is a condition for a relationship. I know that's not what most people do. 

But honestly, if you're more comfortable being transparent with me and in less time I've made an equal impression on you of how happy we could be together, I think you should consider that at face value. 

That's data. 

Good solid data that says to me that maybe you should see what dating me is like.

Yea I know I'm biased but I also think I've made some valid points here. This is just what's been rattling around in my head since that convo.

I'm just waiting for her to come do this thing with me so I can  take her on the interview trail so she can help me decide where we're going to live since I do want to ask her to be my girlfriend meaning that 85% thing is true for me currently. 

And no...I'm not kidding.