Hey Girl!

So…I'm Black as you've probably noticed and not only that I'm also an avid watcher of slow motion train wrecks?  That's just another name for shows like Real Housewives of Atlanta, Married to Medicine, and a bunch of other reality TV shows that I sit right down on my Lazyboy sofa and tune into on a weekly basis.

Now I know what you're thinking.
Really? You watch that trash and you're about to be a PhD and my emphatic answer is
YASSSSS!

Even my Daddy watching AND has opinions about it that he is not shy about sharing and he already has a PhD so there!

So of course I use all the lingo from those shows and the real life gay men I know and love.  You do realize most of this lingo from the gay community right?  Well if you didn't…now you know.

Now, I call everyone "girl."
Everyone except my Daddy gets called girl colloquially. He specifically said "Don't call me girl" so I don't.

"Girl" is equal opportunity.

Now I feel there's a certain intonation in the way I say "girl" like its cool.
It's hip.
It's semi gangsta.
Okay now maybe not gangsta but its how I roll.

I toss "girl" around all the time like its air freshener but let me tell you.

My work husband said

"Girl"

to me to get my attention while I was listening to music and I wasn't quite sure I'd heard him correctly so I removed my headphones and said "Did you call me girl?"

A match made in magnetic nanoparticle heaven

He said "Yes" and started on with what he had to say. Now….WHAT?

Sir….you're a great guy. You're literally like a husband to me AT WORK. You do husband things like leave things places for me to find and put back.  You also listen to my concerns about research, share yours, and together we make it work!  We're a team and I love that. I love your leadership and your know-how and all of that. But ummm….I'm just not so sure about you saying "girl."  I just felt some kind of way. I know he caught that too. He's a good work husband.

Transporting our precious "littles", also known as our magnetic nanoparticles, to our new lab

I'm searching for what it is that I felt though? Why didn't it work? I think because coming out of his brown mouth, knowing he has no context for the word or its colloquial use, sounds a little off.

Oddly enough he has started texting "girl."

This use of "girl" I can get with cause I'm reading it.  I think I just need to work on his pronunciation of "Girl" and we'll be alright.

What do y'all think?