Obviously, I'm a Christian. I'm a "serves in church faithfully" kind of Christian girl that was a debutante. I'm her. Oh and my calling is medicine even if I've played a game or two on the way there ( read: detour).
So, in the beginning I wanted to be an OB/GYN. Since I was 7 and my 2nd grade teacher got pregnant, I've wanted to be that kind of doctor. I've wanted to be that kind of doctor so long that anyone that has known me in the last 5 years knows that's the plan. Well it was the plan, until there was this detour but anyway you'll learn about the detour in due time.
So I've always wanted to be an OB/GYN and that's what I'm trying to do as we speak. I'm waiting to hear from med schools. I'm also writing my dissertation (read: detour).
Now my life is quite colorful so I think you need to meet some folks. Let's introduce some players. We have my Mom, my Daddy, and my kid sister. She isn't really a kid since we're a mere 11 months apart, and yes I'm the oldest, but I still call her that. She's an awesome clinical staff pharmacist and will hitherto be referred to as Tuukie. My mom stayed home but don't be fooled. She's got a Masters because graduate education is how we roll in my family. My Daddy is the original Dr. of the family holding a PhD in Counseling and I will, later this summer become, the 2nd PhD in our immediate family.
Now if I do say so myself, I think having 3 Drs. in my immediate family is bossy as all outside. Its the bee's knees if you ask me but I digress.
Besides these characters, we have the besties. I've had 2 besties since I was 13, Shannon and Sarah. Shannon is a National Board certified band teacher and mother of the sweetest boy alive who will be referred to as LP and Sarah does something with grant writing in NYC. As you know, having been best friends with someone since before you can drive means that these people know you. I mean Shannon and Sarah know me like nobody's business. We were band geeks together and one day I'll tell that story but today we're FOCUSED! They knew my high school love and the end of that and Shannon and I went on a double date with who would become her husband and my ex respectively. They've been conspiring to buy me birthday and Christmas presents for years and they ALWAYS got me what I wanted. These two have been with me more than half my life and I love them.
Within the bestie category we also have my grad school bestie, YiLing.
::30 second praise break::
Oh and what did she teach me? She taught me patience and she taught me to be a good scientist. She also taught me the value of a sister. (A story for another time) She even took me all the way to China and quite literally toured her country with me (I know, super cool bestie AND super cool 18 day cultural immersion experience). At some point I'll probably write about China because it was AWE.SOME.
Last but not least is my superbestie. This girl right here. Y'all just don't know. When I tell you we have walked through some things together…we have W.A.L.K.E.D! She's the Yin to my Yang, the cream in my coffee, and sometimes the song on my heart. I love her like…I love her like if I thought about it too long I'd just start to cry. I actually have done that before but I got it together before it became the "ugly cry." We've only gotten to the ugly cry a few times over the last decade, in times when we weren't seeing eye to eye. That's why I quite literally call her my love, ML, and that's what we're calling her here. I don't know what it is about her but she's the one. I do all kinds of stuff for her because as I like to say "I want to you be epic great not regular great!" I fuss over her and send her care packages. She's in ATL y'all…she don't need no care package <-- (intentional grammar choices here) but what can I say? Giving gifts is one of my love languages. When I'm with her I'm the best housewife ever. Yes, think of everything a housewife does, I do that AND I get up with her at 6:30 AM on Saturday before her shift to make her breakfast, pack her lunch, and see her off when I have no where to be. I'm that good.
And what does she do for me? Well she's my soft place to land. She see's me when I can't see myself. She believes in me when I'm done with me. I mean really done. Like can't stand me. I can tell her anything, everything, or nothing. She's my emotional support. And let me tell you…when you're doing a job you know you can't do forever and you're trying to get into a field that's highly competitive you need that. You need someone who's unwavering in their resolve about who you are and what you're capable of. She takes care of my heart and that is something no amount of laundry and 6:30 AM breakfast making can begin to repay. When anyone brings their relationship nonsense to me I always think "What would ML think of this? How would I react if ML did this?" Now I know you're thinking "Why are you comparing other folks romance stuff to your friendship? The answer: Because friendship, among women, is a power thing AND because I take my friendships super seriously. I know for a fact, I take my friendships more seriously than a lot of folks out here dating and doing other things they ain't got no business doing! That there….just now, was shade!
ANYWHO….
I know I'm gonna have to tell my future BWE (Stolen from the one and only Grady Dr. K. Manning!) that these girls right here, are the reason I'm the woman you see and the reason I'm an awesome person to know. You, future BWE, should thank them because what you're getting, was honed through our collective blood, sweat, and tears. You don't get to be friends over half your lifetime without learning some serious relationship and communication skills. But alas is blogger is single. Happily so because all my needs are met by ML and the other besties.
And now you're thinking "A 26 year old has all her needs met by friends?"
The answer is yes, absolutely.
You know why? Because I don't date. That's something you should know about this here blogger. I don't do it. You know why? Because I have way too much I want for myself to be dealing with someone temporary. I've got at least 8 years of schooling to go and babies, Lord knows I love them, aren't a part of that plan. My bestie Shannon had LP and that's all the baby I need.
Oh yea…I was talking about the not dating. Well all the relationships I'm willing to invest my time and energy in are 5+ years old and solid as a rock. I don't play about my time AT. ALL. Its precious and there isn't ever enough of it. I realize this could be seen as controversial but check it. When I'm at Shannon's I get to be all family oriented: bath time, book time, puzzle time, play time, nap time, cooking with a 3 year old time.
This is our first banana pudding we made together. He's so proud! So was I ;-)
I get it all and I soak it in good.
Surprisingly, I'm an introvert. Proud of it too. I'm an outgoing introvert actually. I'm the kind of girl who goes to Australia all by herself for he 26th birthday <--- True story I'll tell sometime. But I'm also the girl that sits down and writes ML a lovely inspirational email for her first day of work from across the world. I'm that girl.
Yup….Sydney Opera House!
Now you know who my people are but I guess you should meet me. Hi. I'm Phil. This here is my blog. I'll be writing about past, present, and future. I'm here to reflect on this journey and to take it with you. So let's see what we can do together.
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