Next Level

I was talking to a new friend about the way me and God do our thing and I was struck by something that really resonated with her.

We were talking about sex, sexuality, and God and I said something I've said a million times.

I told her that I asked God about sex and relationships and in both situations He'd said to me

Can you say forsaking all others, you'd choose her? If yes, then yes.

That idea "Forsaking all others, I'd choose you" was one that had lost its gravity with me but it blew my friend away.

She was like....

 "Wait....WHAT?
Forsaking everyone else?
As in everyone else in the world?
Girl WHET?!?!?
That's a higher bar than waiting until marriage. That's everything."

And you know what...it is. I'd never considered that its a higher bar than marriage but people cheat all the time. Married people cheat. So you've got the first layer of this standard from God being more than waiting until marriage because many people can't say that they'd forsake all others as a part of choosing to marry their spouse. If this level of commitment was required for marriage, many people wouldn't be able to get married to begin with, Lord help. On top of that God' requiring a deeper part of a continuous abiding commitment to always choose the one you chose from me. God's asking for a LOOOOOTTTT from the kid.

And she kept coming back to it and being like "Girl, I've never been able to say that. I can't say that about my current love interest."

And I said "Girl I know. I've never been able to say it about anyone else. Its why there isn't a simple 'get over her 'in my spirit."

We kept talking and intermittently she came back around to it but I think we can get use to God. That's what this conversation taught me. We can get use to how big and magnificent He is and that's not good. I've also gotten use to Him taking care of me. He knows I need high standard because of who He's made me to be.  I'm too sensitive to be out here sleeping with folks I'm not truly committed to. I just can't be that open with more than one person. I know there are places and times in my life when I could have done otherwise but because I chose and keep choosing His path, I'm safe and I'm whole and I'm loved.

See relationship with God changes the game.

Its my relationship with Him that makes the standard, which is far and above that which is required in the Bible but what I know is....its His best for me. 

I trust Him.