Wasn't Expecting This

I really identified with Megan.
We both love soccer.
We were both taking Abby's retirement hard.
We both loved kids.

And then she did something that told me that we are actually nothing alike.
I'm not spilling any details here but Megan left her wife.
Let me be very clear.....Megan left her wife and the mother of her two children.

That was when I realized that me and Megan are very different.
Megan said she wasn't in love with Candace any more.
I don't really have a grasp on what that means. I can't wrap my mind around it.

I've always felt like love, the long standing love of marriage that is, was a choice you made everyday to choose that person, to see them favorably, to try.

The words "I don't love you anymore" aren't ones I understand if you've ever loved someone.
I've loved two people on the path to the love standing love of marriage. No, I've never been married but two times in my life, there have been people I would have stayed with forever.

I still love both of them.
I may not be in love but I think with a foundation of "I love you" you can always get back to "I'm in love with you."

Love doesn't mysteriously end. Or at least it doesn't for me.

So yea, that knocked the wind out of me.

What I love though is that Candace is talking about it. She's not hiding. She's not radio silent. She's grieving and sad but she's going to be alright.

One of the most powerful things a person who is hurting can do is tell the truth. Saying so lets people know you need them. It gives people permission to help.

I'm really proud of you, Candace.
Really proud.