You think so huh?

So I've run into a dilemma of sorts.

Apparently, I'm way too nice.

Here me out.....

I host these fantastic dinner parties. I mean....there are 4 seats max at these things and I go all out. Cloth napkins you can actually use all out. Everything is made from scratch and its all delicious. I even make special side meals for people with dietary restrictions. I'm serious about it. Getting invited to a dinner party is your stamp of approval in my book. If I haven't fed you, I don't really like you for real.

So that gets to my story.

A TON of people from school think they're going to get an invitation to a dinner party.
I have no idea where they got this notion. 
And they KEEP asking.

Now it struck me that they must think considerably more of our cordial hallway conversations than I do. And even if we have more extensive conversations, if you don't have my actual phone number, not my groupme, but my personal cell phone number...WE ARE NOT FRIENDS.

I'm a nice person. I'm cordial to people. I laugh easily. I'm open minded and open to conversation. I'm a good listener.

None of those things mean we are friends. Actually, none of those things mean I even like you. Often time I don't actually like you.

I'm the kind of person that has a friend quota. Once mine is met, I'm nice but I'm not really accepting more applicants for friendship. I already have the largest friendship group I've ever had. Its like 8 of us....that a whole heap.

I have my bestie from middle school, my high school sweetheart, the boys from undergrad, my bestie from grad school. Generally I have 1 or 2 good friends from each scholastic level  so coming into med school I had 5 plus my mentors. A group of 8 is way more than sufficient. And that doesn't include a few people I do actually like.

Regardless, I'm not inviting just anyone to my house.
Its a no.
One of my friends, whose friend group I actually don't like, asked if they could all come over for a dinner. I was like "GIRL WHAT?!?!?" in my head.
Firstly, you're trying to invite these folks to my house AND you want me to cook?
That's a smooth no.
One of them picks on me about women's soccer, one of them does no work in his e-board job but everyone thinks so highly of him in that position though I'm doing all the work, and the other one I just don't know.
I told her no but I was just like seriously....I must be the nicest person in public for y'all to think I really like so many of you.

The cold hard fact is I'm a nice person. That doesn't mean I like you. If you want to know if I really like you and its possible for you to get a dinner invitation, check and see if you have my number in your phone. ALSO Take note of whether or not I've ever called you to just chat. If you haven't met BOTH those requirements, you're probably not someone I consider my friend.

Friends get dinner invitations.