Simple

A soul mate
is a mirror
they show you who you are

they're important because they tear down your walls
and smack you awake
Had I not met her,
loved her,
fought for her
I wouldn't have known that I wanted to spend my life with a her.

but marrying your soul mate isn't always wise.

a soul mate
is someone who changes you
the intensity of the relationship doesn't allow y'all to be stable
and marriage requires stability.

A partner is a friend
a person who thinks you're terrific
who you want to be nice to
its not tension and high vibration.
Its Sunday mornings on a porch swing saying nothing and being content.

its simple.

I've been with my soul mate.
Its the singular most intense emotional experience I've ever had.
It was the mountain top and the valley simultaneously.
It brought me to my knees more times than anything else ever has.
That experience will make me a better wife,
a better mother,
a better friend,
a better mentor,
a better student.
I wouldn't be who I needed to become had I not met her.
Moreover, I wouldn't be able to answer the call on my life if I was with her.

I want simple.
I want a partner.
I want stability.
I want to think you're great and have tea in the morning and be nice to you.

This is how I contrast my ex and the girl I want to be with. There's a girl I want to be with. She's great. She teaches math. She likes to laugh and cook and dance. She's the person I think my ex prepared me to be with. At least that's what I hope. If not, my ex prepared me to be with someone and I'm waiting to see who. I'd like for it to be the math teacher but we'll see won't we.

~Phil