Two Princesses are better than One

My friend pointed out that in two different situations, similar things have happened to me.
I like a girl.
I show her the world.
She picks someone else. (Details matter but in the context he was pointing out something else.)

He went on to say "What's wrong with your picker?"
You continuously pick girls who are willing to split their attention to some degree, essentially string you along or cheat with you, and eventually they make a real decision when forced to.

I thought about that.
And this is what I think.

My preference is for women of a certain size. I prefer my women size 18+. Ideally, I like a 22.
22 is real nice.
Real
Nice.

And that means my preference is for a type of woman that typically isn't widely sought after. Many will sleep with a curvy girl but they won't wife her.
I want to wife her.
Its the only kind of girl that I want to wife.
Thus is the only kind of girl that I want to date.

And what I've noticed is that when you shower a girl who isn't told very often with "you're beautiful" "You're sexy" and "I think the world of you" they're not used to hearing it and they don't want to stop hearing it.
So even if they aren't going to pick you, they still want you to talk to them like that and treat them like a rockstar.
There's a level of insecurity there too. Because most girls I like haven't had a ton of opportunities to have two people be very serious about them. And they don't want to be so transparent about who they will or won't pick because they'll lose the attention of the other and that's attention they enjoy, have never had, and probably feel they will never have again.
And honestly, with me, you won't.
I'm not going to show you that again unless you pick me.
I will show any girl I might like that I'm capable of this but if you show me that you aren't as serious about me back or that you won't commit, I'm going to pull back.
Not because you're not a princess but because I am too!