I was that girl

When I  was younger, I was in an abusive relationship.

However, I made a decision back then for a multitude of reasons not to report him. What were they?

1. He was a Black male.
2. He was going into a profession that wouldn't take him if he had a domestic abuse charge on his record.
3. He and I had worked hard to get him out of college and I didn't want all my hard work to go to waste because our personal relationship was abusive.
4. I didn't want to be the reason a Black man failed. It was his fault for doing it but I would ultimately be the one to bring the hammer down if I told.

So I decided back then that I wasn't going to do anything about the abuse. I stayed in the relationship many more months before I found the strength to leave. I hold no ill will towards him.

I made a decision.
I made that decision for all the reasons I listed not to tell anyone about the bad or the ugly that was our relationship.
That was my call.
In my opinion, there is no reason for why I should or would currently try to shame him over half a decade later. What's the point? When I had the bruises I didn't have them documented as evidence. I have no data to support my claim at all. Thus, I know what he did and he does too.

I made a decision.
I stand by that decision.
This might be the reason I have such a hard time with all these women coming out of the darkness with their stories about Bill Cosby.
If you decided not to tell when it happened, I don't personally understand the point of saying anything now.

Just my thoughts....