Round 3

This can be summed up very easily.

Mom doesn't believe I'm gay because I've liked guys.

And yes I have but I've never wanted them in my bed.

She went "You like the feel of a woman's body?"
I said yes.
She said "Have you and a relationship with a woman in a bed?"
I said "Now that's not really appropriate conversation." <----We're not doing this. Nope!

And then she called me a liar. A pretty good one at that. Because I didn't feel safe to come out? Really? I'm a liar because you created an environment inhospitable to this conversation? Ok.

She also seems upset that I talk to my mentor about it. Specifically before I talked to her. And I explained that telling your family is a big deal, a much bigger one than telling your coworkers. And I did talk to her about how to tell them. About a lot of things. For some reason they think its her fault that I got a PhD (Let me tell you something: You ain't doing 5.5 years of research for another person. Nope!) I'm not going to use it but can I tell you its made me a better person and that's all that matters? I guess not. I love my PhD for all its done for me even if it won't be related to my career. Period. And they don't appreciate her loving me in a way they're struggling to: without conditions.

Mom wants me to keep this to myself. Don't tell anyone and just take it with me when I leave. She was like you're so good at hiding it so continue to do so.

She also said she still loves me. You love me but you want me to continue to hide? Okay.